Experiences can alter our state.
As defined by dictionary.com, a state is “a particular condition of mind or feeling.”
Our current state can fluctuate depending at least to some degree on what’s happening around us. For example, a person gets out of bed — initially they’re experiencing neither an overly negative or positive outlook. They’re in a relatively neutral state. Upon getting into the shower, this person realizes they neglected to pay their water bill (evidenced by the fact that the water in the shower doesn’t turn on). It’s highly likely that the person’s state is going to go from neutral to negative in no time flat.
We could just as easily have looked at a more positive example and seen how a person can quickly begin to benefit from what a more positive outlook can give them.
Think back on a time where you felt as though something wasn’t going to work out, only to have everything fall into place perfectly. If you really give it some thought you’ll remember that feeling of seeing your state literally change for the better almost instantly. It happens frequently, but we don’t always notice it because we rarely take the time to be aware of it in the first place.
Shifting to a more positive state is conducive to your experiencing a more fulfilled outlook in both your personal and professional life.
Here are 3 strategies for shifting your state:
1. Plan For It.
Introduce things, people, and experiences which have proven in the past to make you feel good or experience positive feelings in your regular routine. Remember, how we feel can and does change because of the events, people, and things which we come into contact with. It only makes sense to plan interactions that alter our current state in a positive way.
For example, if you have a favorite movie which always makes you feel good when you see it, the obvious thing to do would be to watch it more often. You’ll very quickly begin to perk up. The same can be said for making a quick call to a friend or anyone who always tends to make you feel better.
2. Note it.
Take note of your current state – how you feel and what might have led to how you’re feeling in the moment. Sometimes something simple as watching too much “negative news” can end up pulling us into feelings of despair or gives us a sense that the sky is falling.
While it is true that what we may have watched was indeed a terrible tragedy or event, it’s not true that it’s necessarily representative of all that’s happening around you. In most cases, it’s just what happens to be getting the most attention. The news as a general rule is hard pressed to run an abundance of “positive, feel good human nature” stories even though they’re happening all around us, in all parts of the world.
Take note of what might have helped to put you in the current state you’re experiencing. If it’s a good one, do more of it. If it’s not serving you in some positive way, you can make the choice to counter it with something that will. The choice is yours. If you deem that listening to a particular song makes you feel sad and you keep on listening to it, that’s OK, but don’t blame the song or the song writer. You made the choice to keep on listening.
Just as your peer group (the people you hang around) can have an impact on you, and what you aspire to in your life, so too can what you choose to listen to or allow your mind to absorb, either consciously or sub-consciously. Be aware of the simple idea that what you take in can have an impact on what manifests itself in the state you find yourself experiencing from moment to moment.
3. Read It.
Make time to read and listen to things of a positive nature. It’s simple, but simple works. Scheduling reading time with books or listening to audio programs with a positive message can serve you for the better. Making a conscious decision to learn new skills helps us build our inner belief, which goes a long way towards making us feel better about ourselves and our abilities.
Books and audios do not provide a magic pill or potion. They provide ideas which can work for you if you are willing to try them and apply them to your own life. Personal development is a hands on project. You will need to decide for yourself which ideas work for you. Strategies are simply things to be tried and applied. Keep what works and discard what doesn’t.
Do you see the common theme from these tips?
Awareness of what we want, and a willingness to act on the promptings which are revealed, is essential to living a happy life.
You’ve got to be the biggest part in your own self-growth. As you make the choice to live out the greatness you have within, you’ll be on your way to living your best life!